Welcome Bags

From the desk of: Phoebe Allen

You may have noticed that wedding welcome bags are becoming more and more intense these days, with customized items and bits and pieces from the couple’s lives…so we are here to help you decide what to put in and what to keep out of them!

First, we want to also point out that the only people who should receive them are your guests staying in hotels and your bridal party! The group of friends that wanted to save some dollars and rent an air B&B does not need a welcome bag. You should not have to drive around the city delivering these bags… this weekend is about you, not them!

For starters, a welcome bag is a gift basket (so to speak) that is put in a hotel room upon arrival, usually filled with goodies to get them through the weekend. Which brings us to another point…we only suggest one per room. Couples are quite good at sharing, and the only reason we see the need to have two bags in one room is if there are a set of children and they each would want one….as children do!

We have seen just about everything these days, from bags costing up to $100 each all the way to creatively created at $20 each. We want to help you through it all!

What to have IN your bag:

The bag! You can have this be a reusable bag or just a super cute bag that you love.  It can be customized or not, all up to you!

 Favorite beverage(you can pick between flat waters or sparkling waters.) Some hotels do not allow you to bring in alcoholic beverages, no matter how small, so be aware of that.

Favorite sweet snack. We have seen all pink starburst, salt water taffy, and cotton candy! Be careful to not use a lot of chocolate as it may melt…

Favorite savory snack. Perhaps you love Cape Cod chips, or popcorn, or even kale chips! Who doesn’t love a good health snack.

A hangover kit – or any version of it! These are super easy to make on your own and much cheeper. You can buy the 2 pack of Advil, an Emergen-C, and a small pack of gum.

A welcome letter – We always suggest having a welcome letter! Even if you are not even doing a bag, a welcome note is still a lovely touch. We recommend including all the details your out-of-town guests need to know. Maybe your favorite coffee shop and breakfast spot, a thank you note for them traveling to you, and then the details for your big day! Now, yes, this is all probably on your website, but it can’t hurt to have it right in front of them as well!

What you can add in as extras: None of this is necessary, just fun!

A piece of fruit

Another type of water – if you want both sparking and flat

A luggage tag (because they are traveling!)

More sweet or savory snacks!  If your partner and you have very different tastes, add in both!

We also love working with companies that make them for you! LuxBox is an amazing company that helps you design your perfect welcome bag, and they also have pre-made ones ready to buy!


How Pre-Wedding Jitters Hurt Your Sleep (and How to Get Some Rest on Your Honeymoon)

Written from the desk of Tuck:

Stress is a natural part of life and should be expected when you’re preparing for a wedding. However, wedding stress can lead to sleeplessness, which can put your stress levels over the top. You can start to develop healthy stress management techniques before your ‘I do’s’. Those same techniques can help you catch up on your rest and relaxation once you hit your honeymoon too.

Watch Out for Stress and Sleep Deprivation

We’ve all done it—laid awake tossing and turning while worrying about a big event. As one of the most important events of your life, some amount of sleep loss is to be expected around your wedding. However, sleep deprivation and stress can feed one another until you’re physically, mentally, and emotionally out of balance.

Without at least seven hours of sleep, the brain’s emotional processing center goes into overdrive, especially when it experiences negative thoughts and feelings. At the same time, the brain’s center of logic and reason reduces it’s influence, leaving you even more susceptible to chaotic emotions. But you don’t have to be held hostage to emotional fluctuations.

Make Time to De-Stress

Some wedding stress is unavoidable. However, you can take the time to manage stress on a daily basis to keep it from overtaking your life (and disrupting your sleep). Some of our favorite techniques include:

  • Journaling: When it comes to stress relief, journaling is simple yet effective. A journal provides a place to leave your concerns and worries for the night. You might also want to use it to create the next day’s to-do list or as a gratitude journal so you can focus on the positive.

  • Meditation: Mindfulness meditation, in particular, has been shown to cause a relaxation response, wherein the heart rate and blood pressure decrease. Long-term practitioners even show a strengthened connection between the brain’s emotion and logic centers, which is exactly what you want in preparation for your wedding.

  • Exercise Regularly: Exercise can reduce some of the symptoms of insomnia. In the meantime, it improves your cardiovascular and muscular health. If exercise isn’t your cup of tea, it doesn’t have to be vigorous just consistent enough to reduce your stress.

Use Your Honeymoon for Rest and Relaxation

Your honeymoon is the gold at the end of the rainbow. Wedding stress will finally be gone and you get to spend alone time with your favorite person. Depending on your honeymoon destination, you might need to do a little prep to make sure it’s as relaxing as it should be. We suggest:

  • Anticipating Jet Lag: If you’ll be traveling through more than three or four time zones, jet lag will be an issue. Prepare beforehand by moving your bedtime closer to that of your honeymoon destination in 15 to 30-minute increments. Do the same with your meals as meal timing can influence your sleep cycle too.

  • Napping Sparingly: Naps are good. They can reverse the effects of sleep deprivation, but they should be used sparingly. Anything over 60 minutes could interfere with your nightly sleep schedule so try to keep it to 15 to 30 minutes.

  • Heading Outside: How can going outside help you get some extra rest? Exposure to natural light helps your body adjust the release of sleep hormones to match that of the local time zone. Outside time can be relaxing too. Hit the beach, take a riverside walk, or simply sit outside in the sunshine.

  • Be Prepared: Make sure that if you need any medicinal or mechanical sleep aids, like melatonin or a CPAP machine, make sure you’ve got it packed and ready to go.


Keeping stress in check will help you to enjoy your pre-wedding time so you’re ready to start your new life together off right. Come honeymoon time, you’re ready to catch up on a little rest and relaxation.