July 28, 2017
Growing up, most girls envision a picture-perfect moment…the marriage proposal! I never really had something specific in mind, but knew that when I met Joe, things were different. We understood each other’s jokes, had similar interests, and awkwardly (or awesomely) operated on the same wave length the majority of the time. Here’s a summary of what has happened on our adventure, and where it all stands today.
Joe was gearing up for his graduation from business school at Boston College in 2017. Little did I know, Joe called my parents (who live across the country) ahead of time and asked for my hand in marriage. After receiving my father’s blessing, Joe began the process of secretly getting a ring made that was reflective of who I am. Always a fan of the fabled “two-for-one” deal, Joe was planning on proposing to me right after his graduation ceremony. I had no idea, but his mom, my parents, and a couple of his close friends knew what I was in for.
After the ceremony, Joe dragged me around campus to take pictures together. I grew a bit frustrated and annoyed (it was cold out!) and wanted to just get in the car and to warm up. Finally, as I began to walk to one of the dozens of locations, Joe instead grabbed my hand as I was walking away and when I turned around, he was on his knee in his cap and gown!
Moving in was a crazy concept to us….and finding a place in Boston in June is difficult! Joe went to see an apartment in Quincy, MA, and before I knew it, he had locked us into a two-bedroom apartment near the red line in a brand-new building. We love our new apartment!
The hardest part about venue shopping is figuring out what type of experience we want our friends and family to have. Given the size of my family, we knew the wedding would be in Seattle to make it as easy as possible for everyone. We flew out to the West Coast figuring we would end up at the winery that we had a soft hold on. But little did we know that the “wildcard” venues we threw in would actually win us over! We still have a bit of discussing to do, but are getting close to a decision. We are so excited to plan our wedding and have the time of our lives! Stay tuned for updates on our journey.
January 08, 2015
Happy New Year and Congratulations to the newly engaged! The holidays are a season of giving and receiving. We’ve found that a lot of those gifts include giving an engagement ring and receiving love to last a lifetime!
Image courtesy of Zev Fisher Photography – to see the full photo and more – go here!
In celebration of all that lies ahead for you and yours, here are a few websites that we like to check out when looking for new or unique wedding ideas (or just fall in love with Love!).
Dorfman Jewelers – If you don’t have the ring (but know there’s a promise), be sure to have one of their specialists help you with the Art of Engagement. Discover the newly renovated Dorfman’s when shopping for your wedding rings as well! (and fiances of the world – have your sig-other keep a running list of things they like here – it will make future gift giving easy!)
How He Asked – a website dedicated to marriage proposals, with thoughtful words, photos and even video. If you’re in the mood to cry out of joy and all things good in the world – go here. If you’re in the mood to share your story of love – go here.
BHLDN – vintage, delicate, ethereal are all words that describe the dresses, accessories and other beautiful things you can find on this wedding website from Anthropologie. Sometimes all you need to complete the look is that one perfect thing…
Vows – searching for your wedding dress can be fun, exciting and overwhelming. The staff at Vows in Watertown, MA will help you find that perfect look. This bridal outlet offers high-end designer wedding gown samples and overstocks from famous designers. You are one of a kind, maybe the dress should be too!
Style Me Pretty – See what other real couples have done for their weddings – great for inspiration and current trends. We love to see what wedding trends are happening around the country.
Squarespace – thinking of designing a personal website for the Big Day? Check this out – they have wedding templates and make it easy to customize to suit you and your fiance’s style.
Recycle Your Wedding – figured out your wedding style and feeling a little DIY? We do our best to help our brides find ways to save some dollars here and there. Sometimes this means buying accents (votive holders, lanterns, and other little tidbits) which can be hard to store. From the Ruffled Blog – here are some classifieds to buy and sell your wedding goods!
Congratulations again on your recent engagment! AE Events is here to help you create a beautiful and magical day for you and your family – give us a call or email us to inquire about our services and how we can help you go from Ms. to Mrs.!
June 04, 2014
Weddings are about the couple, not just the bride! So we decided to hit up the other side of this equation – Thomas – for his thoughts on the whole ‘getting engaged’ thing, now that we are one year away from the Big Day.
So You’re Ready To Propose
So you think you’re ready to propose… not so fast! A proposal worthy of the beautiful woman you are asking to spend the rest of your life with isn’t as easy as picking out a ring and hoping she says yes. What are the 4 C’s? What do you mean I can’t just walk out with the engagement ring the day I buy it? Rings have sizes? These were just some of the questions I had, and learned, throughout my proposal journey.
Be Confident She’s On The Same Page:
This one should go without saying. A relationship involves two people, and just because you’ve gotten to “that point” in your relationship doesn’t always mean she is in the same place. It might sound unlikely, but I’ve heard more than a few stories where the guy is ready to pop the question and the girl is ready to move on. If you aren’t sure she will say yes, you’d better make sure before spending a lot of time and money proposing. Forcing a girl into a situation where she has to say yes will likely not end well for either of you!
Picking Out a Ring:
Rings are not cheap. The traditional guideline on what to spend on a ring is the equivalent to 3 months of your current salary (after taxes), though that is very much open to variation depending on your current financial situation. The real key is to not put yourself into an incredible amount of debt, or make foolish decisions just to meet that number (DO NOT buy your ring on a credit card unless you can pay it off with another source immediately). Typically your fiancé-to-be will have an idea of what size stone or diamond she is looking for, and hopefully it’s within reason.
Next, figure out what else she is looking for. I learned early on about the “4 C’s” (guidelines to focus on when picking out a diamond): Carat (the size of diamond), Cut (the shape), Clarity (are there any “inclusions” or dark spots?), and Color (is it clear or is there a tint of another color?). Typically the most important factor to girls is the size followed closely by shape or setting.
Elizabeth mentioned she was less concerned with the color or clarity, but while I had the opportunity to buy a slightly bigger diamond with a sizable black inclusion in the middle of it, it just didn’t feel right – nor did it meet my standard of quality. In addition, Elizabeth hinted many times about the importance of an intricate setting as well as taking a particular liking in the Tacori brand. For this reason I made sure to spend a little more on a specific setting to make sure it had the look she desired, even though it meant a slightly smaller diamond.
Another tip…If you can’t figure out how to find her ring size, an average ring finger is a size 6. When it comes to the type of metal, the most common type of metal is white gold, though this is definitely something worth getting right. Find out what kind of jewelry she typically wears and use that as a guide. Lastly, plan to purchase the ring at least a month in advance (maybe more) so that it is ready in time for your proposal.
The Big Day/Night:
Before I planned everything out I noticed a picture on Elizabeth’s Pinterest page called “Rules for Engagement” that I think are a really great set of rules to follow for any man proposing:
1) Ask for her parents blessing.
2) Make it a surprise.
3) Use her full name.
4) Get down on one knee.
5) Have somebody catch it on camera.
#1-4 should be fairly obvious, but #5 was really an excellent touch. This moment is just as important as any other in your life, and if you’re going to spend thousands of dollars on a photographer at your actual wedding, it’s a steal to spend a couple hundred and capture the proposal. For our proposal, I turned to the wonderfully talented Mikhail Glabets to capture the special moment, and we couldn’t have been happier with the results! And to top it all off I’ll actually add a 6th item: Have her favorite champagne chilled and ready!
Listen To Her Clues:
As you’ve read along you probably have noticed that Elizabeth did a pretty good job of making me aware of what she wanted without being overbearing about it, and I made sure to do my research ahead of time as well. This is an important point for both the guy and the girl in this situation.
Ladies, it’s not always obvious what you really want. Make sure to help your man out by leaving him clues or bringing it up in conversation (but please don’t come across as demanding or expecting).
Guys, your fiancé-to-be has been dreaming about this stuff for a very long time and probably has an idea of what she wants. While I know most guys don’t want to feel like they are just being told what to do, now is not the time to prove your independence by ignoring her desires. Absolutely find ways to make the proposal your own, but make sure to do your research so that you are trying to re-create the moment she has been dreaming about.
Bride-to-be Elizabeth, approves this message.
Watch out for July’s post when E&T decide the fate of the food… Adventures in Catering and Cake.