FROM THE EYES OF THE GROOM
From the desk of Intern Burton
So much emphasis is put on a couple’s wedding day with the star of the show obviously being the bride. With all the little nuances she has to deal with in the months leading up to the big day, why shouldn’t she be? However, sometimes we may skip over the groom in our thought process! As an event planner we want to make sure that both the bride and the groom has their own part in sharing and managing the responsibilities that goes into the planning process…after all this it is his wedding too! In this piece I will highlight some of the important aspects of the “Big Day” that a groom must be on top of.
Finding his groomsmen - This one should come as no surprise, but it is a groom’s job to find his own groomsmen for his wedding. Not only finding them, but coordinating with them on items such as fittings, the rehearsal dinner and any other aspects that may possibly be on the agenda. Above all else, it is his job to make sure they all behave and act properly during this celebration. (Some of this can of course be handed off to the best-man as part of his responsibilities as well.)
Learning how to dance - If you are like me, you probably have little to no sense of rhythm when it comes to the art form of dancing. Even something as miniscule as a three-step dance you would see at a high school prom is made exponentially more difficult when you have hundreds of people watching your every move on that dance floor and trying to make sure you don’t step on your bride’s dress. It is the groom’s job to prepare himself for this. The important thing is to not get discouraged and to try and enjoy yourself. If not for you, then at least for your blushing bride-to-be! Turning this experience into a date-night, can be both romantic and rewarding.
Vows - I cannot stress this enough, practice your vows! I cannot tell you how many times I have been worked with a couple when the groom starts with something that sounds like it was written on a used napkin from the bridal suite minutes before. As opposed to his fiancé who follows with this elegant masterpiece that flows beautifully, almost like poetry. If you are not an especially deep individual that is completely fine, stick to what you love about your partner and go from there. Practice with your best-man beforehand if need be. In the shower. On your way to work. In front of the mirror when you’re shaving. Anything! A lot of people have a fear of public speaking so practicing and preparing yourself will go a long way towards settling your nerves on the day of.
Be a Gentleman - The entire premise of a wedding day is for both the bride and groom to celebrate their love for one another. It is important to remember to be there for one another. In the groom’s case, do not forget how you got here and be a gentleman. Traditional weddings often have the groom giving his wife-to-be a present or gift. This doesn’t have to be anything extravagant but sending simple flowers or a classic bottle of champagne to the bridal suite the day of your wedding will do wonders. I promise you that she’ll love your flowers more than the ones she is has her florist arranging that day. I’ve even seen something as simple as a love note written on a mirror in the bridal suite saying, “I cannot wait to marry you.” The main point here is to remember why you are doing this.